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Review · Hold On to Your Kids Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers É PDF, DOC, TXT, eBook or Kindle ePUB free Nderstood and earn back your children’s loyalty and love This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended a true source of contact security and warmth for their childre. I thought the first part of the book where the author gives examples of the horrors that can result when kids are peer oriented went on a bit too long but did find the chapters where he eventually got around to explaining concrete steps to take to maintain parental attachment while avoiding or reversing peer attachment to be useful Before reading this book I thought kids would attach to their parents based largely on the sheer uantity of time they spent together but the authors have explained that it is complicated than that It is easier than I supposed for kids to become unattached to their parents but then on the flip side it shouldn t be too hard to get them back if you catch this earlyI also appreciated the chapter describing the ways peer orientation seems to be a good thing in young kids and that s why society pressures parents into getting their kids socialized at a young age Although it may be too complicated to explain to people who disagree in a social situation where this would come up the book does give the reader encouragement to be counter cultural and foster parental attachment way beyond the time most parents in our culture have relinuished that role to peers

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Review · Hold On to Your Kids Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers É PDF, DOC, TXT, eBook or Kindle ePUB free International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld PhD joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté MD to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time Children today looking to their peers for direction their values identity and codes of behavior This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion interferes with healthy development and fosters a hostil. Here is a copy of the review I did for APII will honestly state that I did not agree with large portions of this book and had a hard time finishing it Because I did disagree with so much of it and knew I would need to do a review of it I took lots of notes and I tried to analyze the authors claims and why I did or did not agree with them So as a critical thinking exercise it was very enjoyable It also sparked an interest in reading scientific research directly on attachment theory I ve read entries in Wikipedia and am looking to read Handbook of Attachment I liked considering the major ideas of why kids are drawn to peers because I see the pattern even in young and old children in my community who I believe to be securely attachedHowever I don t think I can recommend this book for several reasons The major one is that I disagree with the premise that peers are the reason for kids turning away from their parents I don t disagree that kids become attached to peers but I believe the problem to be that parents hurt the relationship so kids look for attachment elsewhere The authors sometime allude that lack of parental attachment is the cause and other times will come right out and blame peers for causing the rift So their message isn t consistent I found there were many other instances of this type of doublespeak in the bookSecondly the reasoning that the authors use for making their argument and their theories on how to reestablish the attachment relationship reads like a parenting advice book with lots of assumptions about the nature of parent child relationships or peer culture Yet scientific references are few and far between I found I was not convinced by the case they made as they sounded like opinions than ideas that would hold up to rigorous scrutiny They simply didn t jive with my world view on human nature so I had a hard time buying themI also found that the authors used fear based techniues to attempt to persuade the audience citing horrific case examples and painting peer groups almost uniformly negative They made children and parents into victims with peers being the perpetrators I don t find it kind to communicate with someone where fear is used to motivate and thus found much of the book to be disagreeable They also freuently implied that if your child is not behaving that your attachment connection is not strong enough without disregard for individual personality or developmental stages I would have a hard time recommending this to anyone interested in attachment parenting who might not have an easy going child who naturally likes to please as it sets them up for lots of doubt and wondering what they are doing wrongFinally the authors tone freuently betrays a world view where not only is an adult powerful but also right or correct or justified in manipulating children aka adultism They freuently come off as patronizing and ignoring the individual that each child is under the guise of parenting or worse when attempting to reestablish the attachment connection I found this most disturbing and disrespectful of an entire class of humanityAbout the only portion of the text that I did like and got something out of was chapter 17 Don t Court the Competition In this chapter they identify common beliefs in mainstream parenting like not being fooled by early peer orientation shyness as a negative sign children learning social interaction skills children needing friends etc Again I didn t always agree with the why s of their theories around the ideas but I think they are correct in bringing up these so called truisms for scrutiny I might be inclined to recommend this chapter alone to parents particularly those with small children who are trying to understand how kids get along or how preschool fits in or if they are worried about a shy child サイコメ 1 殺人鬼と死春期を not agree with large portions of this book and had a hard time finishing it Because I did disagree with so much of it and knew I would Initiated Memoir of a Witch need to do a review of it I took lots of Beautifully Broken Spirit not agree with them So as a critical thinking exercise it was very enjoyable It also sparked an interest in reading scientific research directly on attachment theory I ve read entries in Wikipedia and am looking to read Handbook of Attachment I liked considering the major ideas of why kids are drawn to peers because I see the pattern even in young and old children in my community who I believe to be securely attachedHowever I don t think I can recommend this book for several reasons The major one is that I disagree with the premise that peers are the reason for kids turning away from their parents I don t disagree that kids become attached to peers but I believe the problem to be that parents hurt the relationship so kids look for attachment elsewhere The authors sometime allude that lack of parental attachment is the cause and other times will come right out and blame peers for causing the rift So their message 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with the why s of their theories around the ideas but I think they are correct in bringing up these so called truisms for scrutiny I might be inclined to recommend this chapter alone to parents particularly those with small children who are trying to understand how kids get along or how preschool fits in or if they are worried about a shy child

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Review · Hold On to Your Kids Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers É PDF, DOC, TXT, eBook or Kindle ePUB free E and sexualized youth culture Children end up becoming overly conformist desensitized and alienated and being “cool” matters to them than anything else   Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters establish the proper hierarchy in the home make kids feel safe and u. My favorite parenting book of all time While it is not extremely well written in a literary or organizational sense I absolutely love and believe in the ideas presented in this book Neufeld very clearly identifies the underlying problems in our culture that pull our children away from us Children need to attach to parents grandparents and other adults who can help them develop a true sense of self We are robbing our children and ourselves when we push them too uickly out into the world without giving them something to hold onto US


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    Pdf/E–book [Hold On to Your Kids Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers] Æ Gordon Neufeld My favorite parenting book of all time While it is not extremely well written in a literary or organizational sense I absolutely love and believe in the ideas presented in this book Neufeld very clearly identifies the underlying problems in our culture that pull our children away from us Children need to attach to parents grandparents and other adults who can help them develop a true sense of self We are robb

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  • 09 September 2020
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